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Suspension.


I just got a call from my 8 year old's school (he's in 2nd grade). He has been suspended for hitting another child (and it was unprovoked).

He's had problems with talking out of turn and lying in the past, but he's never hit before.

His dad left for Kuwait for a year Monday night, so I think that's playing a major factor (not that it excuses the behavior).

I fully support the principal's decision to suspend him--he needs a hefty consequence. Here's what upsets me about it: I asked her about having Ben talk to the school counselor and this was the principal's response--"He's beyond counseling. You need an exorcist."

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I know he's no angel, but that just seemed uncalled for. I want to report it to the superintendent, but I'm afraid the principal will then take it out on Ben. He has one more school year there before we move.

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Completely uncalled for and honestly someone with some authority needs to be notified...

The child is acting out (most do). Not to make excuses but he is undergoing something very traumatic- his Father has gone off to fight in the War. A certain amount of compassion needs to be present when dealing with a situation like this.

Obviously in the perfect world we wouldn't want our kids hitting and hurting their classmates, we don't want our kids to be on the receiving end of it either... But kids are kids and sometimes they scuffle- the important thing is something is learned and they learn how to redirect that anger inside of them... No need to call for an exorcism... fill the principal's seat with someone who has some couth and I would imagine problems like this can be handled in the manner that they should be.

Some people aren't cut out to work with children I would say from this your principal is an example of that.

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Have you decided how you are going to handle this? I know you mentioned to the principal that you thought maybe they could schedule him to talk to someone. Awful that you tried to turn to her for help and she had to be like she was.

I do know this, totally different circumstances and a different age group... My oldest has some issues with his Dad. I thought it best to get him someone to talk to- its honestly the best thing I have ever done. It has been wonderful for us. I am sure alot of it has to do with we were fortunate that the first person we scheduled with was a perfect fit for Zak. I made a lot of call to find out information trying to find the nbest match for him. It really has been a wonderful experience for us. So if its something you could arrange it could be a wonderful experience for Ben and he is at an age where most likely he won't buck it like my 17 year old did. He is now an advocate though.

Let us know how things work out with this. I would imagine its so much more difficult for you as you husband is away. We're here for ya and I really know no other way than single parenting so I understand a small part of what you are going through.

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Just wondering how Ben is doing with the Suspension and with everything in general. I am sure this is such a difficult time for him and the family. Has to be so hard on the kiddos though.

Has the school backed down a little bit and found compassion once they knew the whole story? I would think too I bet you if you called the parent of the child Ben acted out at and just explained what you were dealing with I am sure that family would understand... who couldn't?

Just wondering how it has all played out and wanted you to know we're thinking about you and the kids.

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Actually, I'm still really upset with the principal. Ben wrote apology letters to hist teacher, the principal and the boy he hit. When he came home (it's in school suspension), he was really upset. The principal gave the letter back to him and said that she didn't want it because she knew he only wrote it because he was punished, not because he was really sorry.

It just infuriated me.

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Wow, thats just awful. I cant imagine how that made Ben feel. That one of those things that we as adults know to consider the source but I would imagine that above Bens comprehension at this point. Truly awful she is permitted to hold the position she does if all of her judgemetns have been this poor. Thinking what she is promoting to the the students as you have described with this incident, it just shouldnt be allowed. I see what you mean about just wanting to get through until you are away with her. Its just very sad she will continue to hold her position without her actions being looked at in more depth. From how you have explained everything she hasnt handled this situation very well.



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Oh Dear Mrs.D - those teachers/principal are the ones out of control!!! Their comments are outrageous and her refusal to take the letter is also outrageous - they are the ones acting like children!!!!

Sounds to me your son is struggling in an enviroment that is totally lacking in understanding for his emotional needs.

Did you ever consider an educational psychol assessment for him? I actually think all kids should have this done but what it does is assess's a childs strengths and challenges but with the school enviroment in mind. It is fun for the most part for the child and will really give you a good feel for what's bothering him. Also, it will give you something in writing that the school will need to work to. I wonder is he bored in school? sounds like a lack of stimulation on top of the very very difficult situation he has re. his dad etc.

best of luck to you - honestly - I think while some teachers are magnificent there are more and more duds out there.... just my opinion mind....

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Mrs. D... just curious how ben is making out. When you have a second please let us know. Hope things are going smoother :trihrt

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That is actually schoking - handing back your apology letter! gee I am sure he is not the first kid in school to hit someone - how on earth is he going to learn when an adult refuses an apology.

Ok off my soap box time .....

have you ever thought about home education? Well if your DH is away and DS is feeling the strain that is an option, okay maybe I am trying to sell it to you ... but at least check it out on the net.

And I know how you feel - my DS who is 10 got into trouble at school for something he did not do - well story goes ..our school is closing down and they had a substitute classroom assistant in because one of the staff ha dleft. Anyway lunchtime - every day she made them sit in silence with their heads bowed - one of the boys accidentally got fidgety and touched his lunch box and knocked it towards DS - so DS passed it back to him and that woman assistantshouted at him and kept him behind. This continued over a few days and she was picking on particular children - torturing them - she made my DS afraid to go to school. SO we put a written complaint in to the school and they were forced to deal with it.

And perhpas you should put a formal complaint in too - depsite DS being wrong and hitting someone he is understandbly under pressure and upset .... so it is only right that the school shows him a little compassion and at the very minimum listen to him when he tries to make amends.

anyway I rambled - I am sorry.... hope you get things sorted

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OMG NC - that is outrageous!!! Jeepers - that sub should be locked up - making 10yr olds sit still through lunch with heads down...amounts to child abuse in my books!

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